And now begins the two week wait.
Yesterday I went and had my final round of initial blood work. If everything comes back normal, which I assume it will, we will able to have our first go round next week. Today we made our big purchase after finally narrowing the donor down. The vial should be delivered to our doctors office today and now we wait for ovulation. I am very excited and yet nervous. Not nervous of becoming pregnant, because I am beyond ready but more nervous that I won’t. So say your prayers, I know that I am, that we will be successful the first go round! Wish us luck!!!
We got our results back from the blood work as well as the CMV test. That test has basically narrowed down the choices that we have made. The first one on our list was CMV positive, but with Dj’s results being CMV negative he is not the donor that we will be able to use.
There were four total we had decided on. Two were positive for it and two were negative for it.
What is Cytomegalovirus (CMV)? you ask?
CMV is a common virus that infects most people at some time during their lives but rarely causes obvious illness. It is a member of the herpes virus family. Other members of the herpes virus family cause chickenpox, infectious mononucleosis, fever blisters (herpes I) and genital herpes (herpes II). Like other herpes viruses, CMV infection can become dormant for a while and may reactivate at a later time. The virus is carried by people and is not associated with food, water or animals.
Is this something we would have known prior to our visit with the fertility clinic? No. However the doctor said that most people, kids etc are exposed to it in their life whether it be in preschool, daycare, schools or just playing with kids while growing up. However, the results of that test were something that we needed to know in order to pick the donor in order for us to get pregnant.
With that being said, since Danielle is CMV negative our choices have been basically narrowed down to 1/2. We sat tonight and looked over them as well as their medical history and their family history, and I am pretty sure we are in agreement on the one we want. Even if he isn’t Pick number 1 because he was positive, there is a reason for it, and therefore we will go with the one we have chosen as of tonight. Or so I think.
She will have to go to the doctor in the next week or so. When her next cycle is (sorry guys) but on her 3rd full day as they put it, she will have to undergo more blood tests. Hopefully those will turn out ok and we might be able to start trying in the next couple of weeks.
To those of you that are following us in this journey…to those of you that support and love US, thank you. You have no idea how much it means to us. It is hard enough in this world to raise a child, let alone raise a child and try to become pregnant when you are in a relationship that some of this society doesn’t seem to accept.
Regardless, with the love that we have with 15, with each other, with the words from those of you that ring so beautiful and encouraging in our ears we are so ready to move forward and to SHARE…each step of this journey with you.
From the bottom of our hearts….
Tam, Dj…and 15.
Tomorrow morning is our appointment at the fertility clinic.
We will find out what testing Danielle has to go through as well as what all to expect.
Our journey is beginning and I am so excited.
Sitting around the house tonight with Danielle and 15. We were discussing baby names. We have a name picked out for a little girl, as well as a first name for a little boy.
Since some of you know us…give us some ideas of baby names that you think would fit our family for both a boy and a girl.
Am I sure/ready to have another child since mine is 15?
That is a question I have not only received from people but contemplated much myself. There was a point in time where I could honestly say that I didn’t see myself having any more children. I felt that my child was already at an age where she had become independent enough that she didn’t need me all the time and the thought of starting all over with the up all night, diaper changing etc. was enough to make me run when it was mentioned.
Now I am at a place in my life where I want that so much. I had my daughter at 19. I think that I didn’t appreciate a lot of the things in a babies life that I would becoming a mother again at 35. With that being said, do not take that wrong that I didn’t give 110% in raising my child and continue to do so, I am simply saying with age you learn to slow down and see the small things that I think when you are younger you take for granted. Not only that but when you are with someone that you are so in love with..it only feels right and natural to want to share in bringing a life into this world together and with Danielle…that is how I feel.
We have discussed thoroughly having another child with my daughter. There is nothing more that she wants than that. For years now she has told us how she wants a baby or brother, even so much as willing to give up her Christmas for us to be able to become pregnant. I’m sure however if “Santa” didn’t show up she would be quite disappointed (haha) but that is how much she longs to have a baby brother or sister.
The other night we informed her that we had our consultation this month to start/discuss the process. At her ago she is wanting to know how much it will be, how long do we think it would take…etc. It was quite cute to watch her gather up coins in our cars and all through the house/couch cushions because she wanted to “help” us to be able to do this.
We as a family are ready for this. Danielle will be a healthy beautiful pregnant mother. She is already such a wonderful mom to my (our) daughter and I can’t wait for her to get to experience being pregnant about as much as I can’t wait to rub her tummy at night and sing lullabies to the baby that hopefully will be growing in her soon.
I know for some people it is alot for them to process. Some might not even agree about two women bringing a child into this world. To that, all I have to say regarding that from this point on is …you are entitled to your opinion. If you do not agree with us, then please do not follow us and move on with your own life. We have done quite well raising 15 as well as having custody of my niece and nephew for 1 1/2 years.
This blog is about family. About friends that want and that we want to share in this with us. Some of you we consider family. This blog is about love, something that my family is showered in and blessed with each day.
This is our journey….to be shared with family and friends.
In a couple of weeks we have our first doctor appointment.
This is going to be a consultation where we will be informed of all of the tests that Danielle will have to be subjected to, the bloodwork as well as the process we decided to take regarding getting pregnant. Since insurance doesn’t cover this we will find out the price and a range of how much we are looking at to make this dream become a reality. Who knew sperm would be so much ? Geesh
Hopefully this will be a great appointment and we will be able to really get the ball rolling, as both of us as well as 15 are more than ready for the new one to be here.